According to dictionary criticism is: “the expression of disapproval of someone or something on the basis of perceived faults or mistakes”. So the major fact in the definition you will get is only the word “disapproval”. No one likes disapproval; everyone is hero in their own movie. Everyone is righteous in their own bible. So when one demonstrates the signs of disapproval through their words or gestures. An invisible wall is created that separates the thought of both the party just like a hero’s ideology is differentiated to the one of the villain in fiction. What is the ultimate outcome of the criticism? We have the first reaction in common is to defend ourselves, and if we find the critic a bit harsh the critic is lashed back with complete force.
Other than this basic instinct I have devised some of basic yet effective ways (one at a time) to deal with Adolf Criticism.
Stop your first reaction
If your first reaction is to defend yourself or in extreme lash back. Hold on! It is hard to avoid the first reaction in verbal communication as the packets of messages are continually transmitting. The easiest way to stopping the first reaction is to be quite. (it is high end possibility that your expressions may show your response.Work on it later).Let the other complete the criticism! Remain quite so further could be said, now response with a smile and something unexpected like my personal favorite “You are right!” The magic word will change the whole scenario as the critic fired the fires the missile on you, he/she was expecting you to defend yourself so he/she would backup with the logic. But when you have admitted, the argument is over now the critic has nothing other than listening to your logic. As you have stopped your first reaction you have the total control not over you but the situation. You can have variety of ad-ons along with the magic words such as You are right! But I had in my mind…, You are right! But I was worried about such an…, You are right! It could benefit me more… You can have variety of possibilities which can justify you, praise the critic, admit the mistake. But remember that all will only happen if you stop your first reaction.