According to dictionary criticism is: “the expression of disapproval of someone or something on the basis of perceived faults or mistakes”. So the major fact in the definition you will get is only the word “disapproval”. No one likes disapproval; everyone is hero in their own movie. Everyone is righteous in their own bible. So when one demonstrates the signs of disapproval through their words or gestures. An invisible wall is created that separates the thought of both the party just like a hero’s ideology is differentiated to the one of the villain in fiction. What is the ultimate outcome of the criticism? You have the first reaction in common is to defend yourselves, and if you find the critic a bit harsh the critic is lashed back with complete force.
Other than this basic instinct I have devised some of basic yet effective ways (one at a time) to deal with Adolf Criticism.
Stop being Mean
There is always a mean machine in all of us and there is no need to be ashamed of. The machine is automatically activated when you get something offensive. Too many times you take criticism as a personal attack or a direct insult. Equal retaliation is the best counter in most of the situation. (No need to take it as a personal flaw! It’s in our gene to act like it).
What is the result then? Your opponent consider you the mean the same way you are considering them.
To avoid the fatigue the Golden Rule is to detach yourself from criticism. Remember the criticism is about what you have done or doing, not on what you are! When you rise above emotional imbalance and petty insults. You will find yourself in much of a relaxed mental state, you will feel yourself a better person and more than this you will earn the respect of most of the people.
So Start detaching yourself from the criticism. Remember! criticism you are getting is only about your action, realize it and come up with appositive attitude. You can only be a better person when you acknowledge your flaw, but first you have to find them, appreciate those who are doing this for you.